A marriage check-in that bypasses the arguments
By Bottle Me · Updated
Weekly check-ins are recommended in marriage counselling — and they stall because “how are we?” is a loaded question. A colour check-in lowers the stakes and starts the real conversation.
The weekly colour check
Each partner fills a bottle for how the week felt. Swap and look. The palettes do the talking first — which opens the conversation softer than a direct question.
The shared bottle
Choose a shared bottle theme and invite your partner by code, QR code or link. Fill together in real time, or answer separately and compare the duo report.
A record, not a report card
Nothing scores the marriage. The archive is a record of the seasons of the relationship — useful for noticing drift early, and for remembering the good stretches.
Frequently asked questions
- Is this marriage counselling?
- No — it is a check-in ritual that can complement counselling.
- How often?
- Weekly is the recommended rhythm.
- Is it private?
- Personal records are local by default. Duo sync, community sharing and smart features process relevant content online; see the privacy policy for details.
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